What It Costs to Raise Competitive Kids
As parents, we want the best for our kids. We also want them to be the best. Find out how much it costs to raise competitive kids.
The Costs of Competitive Kids
By Daniel Bukszpan, CNBC.COM, writes about what it costs to raise competitive kids these days.
Most parents, it’s safe to say, want their children to grow up with an edge. They enlist them in team sports, or even chess tournaments, hoping to encourage a killer instinct. They put them on stage to square off against other kids in beauty pageants and dance troupes. And for these activities they pay a small fortune.
Hilary Levey Friedman is a Harvard sociologist and the author of the forthcoming book “Playing to Win: Raising Children in a Competitive Culture.” For her book, she researched a variety of extracurricular activities, including children’s beauty pageants.
According to Friedman, turning your daughter into the next Honey Boo Boo isn’t cheap. The average participation fee for a single pageant is $500. Add travel and hotel of $600, hair and makeup for $250, coaching fees of $400, and wardrobe costs of $500, plus $100 for “beauty rituals like nails, tanning and flippers,” she said in an e-mail. “So total per pageant, on average, is $2350. For an average family that does this five per year, the annual cost is around $11,750
Friedman researched chess clubs for her book. While it may seem that there would be little expense involved in playing chess beyond the purchase of a board, a lot gets overlooked. “Most of the families I met do one tournament per month during the school year,” she said. “The average tournament fee is $40. Most have private lessons, average cost $100, once a week, so $400 per month, let’s say for eight months.” Outside of the school year, costs add up further. “Summer chess camp is about $500 per week, let’s say two weeks per summer,” she said. “One major tournament like state or national; travel fees and hotel come to around $1,500. Materials like a set, a clock and notebooks come to about $250 per year. So the total, on average, is around $5,000 per year.”
Friedman studied mostly lower-middle class and middle class families for her book, and found that the parents of dancers paid thousands of dollars per year. This included entry fees per routine, variable costs for shoes and approximately $200 per costume. “On top of fees and appearance-related costs, there is the cost of traveling to competitions and staying in hotels, which can cost several hundreds of dollars each weekend.” Altogether, Friedman found that the parents she studied spent between $5,000 and $10,000 per year for a child in competitive dance. “This is obviously a lot of money, and it may be surprising to many unfamiliar with dance, but it is commensurate, and even cheaper, than similar activities like figure skating and gymnastics,” she says in her book.
Learning how to be in the 95th percentile of a given subject isn’t something most kids can do on their own. Often they’ll require one-on-one tutoring to take them beyond what they learn in the classroom. But parents should be aware that there are significant costs associated with teaching a child to excel. The $100-an-hour tutor is now hard to come by, and some tutors charge five times that amount.
Sandy Bass, editor of the “Private School Insider” newsletter, says at the $500-an-hour tutor is a phenomenon made possible by parents employed with Wall Street securities firms. According to Bass, these parents are not just willing to pay these sky-high tutoring fees, but compete fiercely with one another for the privilege, in the hopes that it will get their children into the best schools.
Tracy Bobbitt is editor-in-chief of the Hollywood Mom Blog, an online community for the parents of professional child performers. If your child has the acting bug and wants to take it to the next level, she lists some recurring expenses that you may want to be aware of.
Your child will need head shots, and the photo session for those can cost $350. They need to happen twice a year to keep up with your growing child’s changes in appearance, and getting the photo reproductions costs $100 each time. Video reels can cost another $150, and specific audition clothing can cost $500 annually. Listing your child with casting websites like IMDBpro or CastingNetworks is another necessity, and it carries a yearly cost of $350.
According to Tracy Bobbitt, many of the costs that apply to child actors also apply to aspiring singers. However, there are other costs to consider if your child wants to pursue this vocation professionally.
To keep your child’s singing voice to a professional standard, classes cost $300 to $400 a month. This can cost “much, much more for the triple threat kids who sing, dance and act,” Bobbitt said in an e-mail. She also recommends specialty summer camps for singers, but stresses that they “can run from $1,500 to $10,000 or more.”
A child who is uninterested in team sports can still find other ways to compete in athletics. Karate is one such route, and in addition to his violinist child, Eric Chen has a child who competes in karate competitions. He cites weekly instructor fees of $200 an hour, or $10,400 per year.
There are many additional expenses related to the tournaments, including five annual competitions with fees of $125 each, hotel fees totaling $825, almost $600 for gas and over $400 for food.
“Keep in mind that this is for one child only, and I have more than one child,” Chen said. “Also note that this is a relatively light tournament schedule, and that the only tournaments attended are those that are reasonably close.” When a uniform, weapons and sparring gear are added to the list of expenses, Chen estimates that he spends over $14,000 a year to enroll his child in karate competitions.