Dealing With Separation Anxiety

separation anxietyThe first day of school. It’s a terrifying thought for the little kids going to school for the first time. You see them with their anxious faces, tightly clinging to their moms.

Experts call it separation anxiety. Fortunately for me, I didn’t experience that with my son. When I took him to school for the first time, he went inside without a glance in my direction. I guess, all those “mom and me” classes we took helped him adjust easily. That and his outgoing personality.

If anyone was suffering from separation anxiety, it was me. Admittedly, I wasn’t too happy with the school’s policy of not allowing parents to stay inside the classroom even during the first day. The most that we were allowed to do was watch from the window for the first 15 minutes.

I didn’t know how to tell the school officials that it wasn’t my son I was worried about. It was me who needed reassurance. I wanted and needed to know what my son was going to do for the next three hours of that morning, hours that he usually spent with me.

Before he started school, my son and I had our own routine. After breakfast, we’d usually play together or do some activities.  We’d listen and march along to music.  Or play hide and seek.  We’d do some arts and craft until it was time for lunch. Then, I’d give him his bath and brush his teeth before I’d leave for work.

During those first few weeks, I felt lost. After I dropped him off at school, I’d sit on the couch and watch TV till it was time to pick him up again.

That first week of school was the first time I realized my son will leave home someday.  It’s a painful reality I had to accept and prepare for.

And it started that first week.

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  • vee fernandez

    Nice post mommy..This is an enlightening blog post..I myself will be enrolling my son to a play school next year prior going to a “real” school… I am a full time working mom and I always experience having separation anxiety. I do call my mother about 2 or thrice a day to check on my kids and talk with them (though most of the time, I do not understand any of what my kids are telling me since they are still babies). And I guess having a strong support system also enables me to feel relax that my kids are doing well.

    • absolutelymommy

      hi mommy vee, it’s really a challenge for working moms to stay connected to their kids. we miss out on so much. i wasn’t around when my son took his first steps nor for his first birthday. so i try to make up by spending quality moments with him, even if it’s only an hour a day. when i’m at work, i also make it a point to call him up a set time everyday. because he’s young, it’s hard to hold his attention over the phone but at least we get to say hello to each other.

      it’s funny when most articles we see on the internet or in magazines focus on giving advice so moms can help their kids overcome this phase when sometimes, it’s us moms who want to cry because we have to say goodbye.

    • absolutely mommy

      hi mommy vee, it’s really a challenge for working moms to stay connected to their kids. we miss out on so much. i wasn’t around when my son took his first steps nor for his first birthday. so i try to make up by spending quality moments with him, even if it’s only an hour a day. when i’m at work, i also make it a point to call him up a set time everyday. because he’s young, it’s hard to hold his attention over the phone but at least we get to say hello to each other.

      it’s funny when most articles we see on the internet or in magazines focus on giving advice so moms can help their kids overcome this phase when sometimes, it’s us moms who want to cry because we have to say goodbye.